Everyone needs to be noticed.
“If you don’t get noticed, you don’t have anything. You just have to be noticed, but the art is in getting noticed naturally, without screaming or without tricks.”
Was Burnett talking about advertising and marketing? Or was he talking about individual people?
You’re a walking billboard whether you like it or not, and you always have to sell yourself.
The real point, though, is that if we don’t get noticed for something, we’ll end up nothing.
Getting passed over, ignored, and forgotten into the oblivion is a tragedy, and will kill the soul and heart of any man.
The good news is that:
- We don’t have to be ignored, passed over, and forgotten into the oblivion
- We can get NOTICED and get people to pay attention
- We can get what we want by getting people noticing us and paying attention
You NEED to be noticed.
Getting noticed (for positive things!) is how we get ahead in this world.
It’s also how we build confidence and self-esteem (fulfillment through positive recognition).
This sounds awesome Sonny, but HOW do we get noticed?
Getting noticed is all about piquing other people’s interest and making an impression.
So what piques people’s interests?
Things that are:
- Helpful, and that help satisfy needs (desires)
These are things that set the remembered apart from the forgotten.
Sounds simple enough, right?
But let’s go further in depth, and look at some of the BIG things that can help us get noticed.
1. Building Some Size and Getting FIT!
Ever notice a little skinny guy? Yeah me neither.
Like it or not, your body size (as a man, I can’t speak for women on this one) gets noticed.
I saw a guy that was about 6’6″ and 300 lbs of solid muscle the other day.
Did I notice any else around him? Hell no!
I noticed how big this guy was!
Size matters, so it behooves you to get in the gym and build some muscle.
Even if you’re on the shorter side of things, building muscle will help you look bigger and badder.
This will also bring TONS of other benefits, like improved confidence, a better work ethic, improved health, etc. so don’t skip it!
Take a look at my bodybuilding/training articles for more tips, tricks, techniques, and advice.
Sidenote: This doesn’t mean get fat. If you get fat you will be noticed… for being fat. Being muscular AND lean is the goal, and it’s much healthier.
2. Focusing On Posture
This is related to the point above on size.
Good posture makes you seem bigger and taller.
Bad posture makes you seem smaller and shorter.
Focus on fixing your posture if you want to get noticed.
Here are some tips for achieving better posture:
Standing with your chest out, shoulders back, pretend you’re trying to squeeze something between your shoulder blades.
Keep your head above your shoulders, and your shoulders above your hips.
Pretend there is a string going from the top of your head downward through your body. Pretend someone is pulling up from the top of the string.
Try to activate your glutes more as you walk and stand.
Do a lot of back work in the gym. Deadlifts (and variations), pull-ups, lat pulldowns, and rows can help develop your back muscles and help undue any damage from years of bad posture.
Try to suck your stomach in (vacuums) a bit. I notice when I do this my posture instantly improves.
Avoid sitting for long periods. Get a standing desk, try sitting on a physioball, or take plenty of regular breaks from sitting when working.
3. Having a Unique Style
Notice I said a unique style, and not just dressing stylish.
Any dork can try to dress in “stylish” clothes, but you can smell how inauthentic this is from a mile away.
Someone who gets noticed CREATES his style to fit his personality, or in other words they have a true, authentic style that tells you what they’re all about.
A style unique to you is much better than trying to fit into a mold or a trend.
Trends are for dweebs that want to spend all their money on clothes in an effort to be “cool” or “in”.
It’s important to…
- Find out what looks good on you
- Find out what best accentuates your physique and features
- Find out what is comfortable enough for you to wear often
- And find something that YOU like
….and roll with it!
A classic, timeless style is best here. Muted colors and classic pieces are always in style, as is being muscular and lean (see # 1 above “size”).
Don’t ride the waves of trends. Make your own wake.
4. Oozing Confidence, Smiling and Having Fun
Confident people who are always having fun and smiling get noticed.
People just naturally want to be around them.
Who would ever want to be around someone that takes things way too seriously while brooding and scowling?
Scowling dorks that don’t get noticed will say things like “why is that smiling douchebag getting all the attention???”
Well, because people are attracted to positive energy.
People can sense your “vibe” or what you’re all about by the way you act.
If you’re having a blast, they’ll likely have a blast being around you, and who doesn’t like to have a blast?
Sidenote: This doesn’t mean being a goofy dork Ace Ventura style, but it does mean having fun and showing it in a less obnoxious way.
5. Asking For and Then Taking the Things You Want
No one gets noticed by being passive aggressive.
No one can read your mind.
No one is going to guess what you want.
If you want it, say it.
Make yourself heard.
Don’t assume others will just hand you things.
If you ask for the things you want, you’ll be ahead of the 95% of people who just sit around and wait for it (Yes, I just made that up, but it sounds about right!).
6. Standing Up For Yourself and For Others
Lots of movies are built around this premise:
A goofy dork and his friends get bullied mercilessly by a mean jock with a hot girlfriend.
Something happens to the goofy dork and he finds the lion that was hiding inside of him, he fosters some inner strength, and he vows to take no more sh*t while becoming a true badass.
The newly minted badass stands up for himself and his friends and kicks the bully’s ass.
The badass gets the bully’s girl and a newfound respect and rides off into the sunset.
If you’re a goofy dork, find some inner strength, learn to take no sh*t, and start kicking some ass.
7. Blazing Your Own Trail and LEADING
Nobody notices the followers, only the leaders get noticed.
Following is the default.
It’s easy to follow, and most people follow for this very reason.
It takes balls and brains to lead.
You need confidence to lead.
Confidence to know you’re leading people who trust you in the right direction..
When you lead, you become “the guy”.
Everyone’s looking to you for the answers.
This is why leading comes with tons of responsibility.
This is also why leaders get PAID.
Most people can’t or just won’t shoulder the responsibility of leading, hence they are forgotten and unpaid.
8. Having Your Own Solid Opinions and Ideas (taking an angle)
Being agreeable is great… but utterly boring and forgettable.
Having a (positive and meaningful) fight is how you get noticed.
Does this mean forcing yourself on everyone?
But it does mean having strong direction and not just blowing in the wind, accepting any idea or opinion that’s popular at the moment.
There will always be people that think differently from you who have different opinions and ideas.
This is totally fine, because if you thought the same things and had the same ideas as everyone else, you’d be expendable.
The problem starts when some of these people start to become “haters”, and they make it their job to try to shoot you down
This is usually because they’re jealous of your success or they secretly admire you and what you’re doing.
Haters will always be there, you’ll never please everyone, and not everyone will like what you’re doing or who you’re becoming.
Keep doing things your way.
Sidenote: Don’t take this one too far and fight over everything. Know that there are some things that are better to be diplomatic about, and some things are just not worth a fight. Also, don’t just fight to get attention, offer a solution!
9. Doing Great Work and Getting Great Results
Beyond style, we have substance, and when you combine the two, you get the total package.
Great work eventually gets noticed.
It may take a while, but it always gets noticed.
Sure, the guy doing half-assed work and kissing lots of ass gets noticed quickly, but he’ll soon get found out and crash and burn fairly quickly.
Do great work and eventually you’ll get noticed, and maybe even loved for it.
10. Helping Others Reach Their Goals (and solving their problems)
Listen, people are really wrapped up in their own sh*t.
This means that they don’t really care about you and your problems…
…unless you make them care.
How do you make them care?
You help them reach their goals and you solve their problems.
Someone else’s problems are the biggest problems in the world to them.
If you continually solve these problems, you will never need for anything.
People will walk to the end of the earth for someone who solves their problems, never forget that!
Bonus: Getting a Gimmick
Professional wrestlers usually have a “gimmick” they’re known for, something that sets them apart and gives them personality.
This “gimmick” makes them memorable.
It makes them stand out.
We can take a page out of a wrestlers book and come up with a “gimmick” for ourselves, something we become known for, something that helps people remember us.
Going by a unique nickname.
Are you really going to forget a guy that goes by Mad Dog, Cobra or Roadkill?
Being known for a certain piece of clothing.
Are going to forget a guy who wears skull rings and a leather jacket (who’s name also happens to be Roadkill)?
Having unique knowledge in a special area.
“Oh there goes Cobra, he know EVERYTHING about honey badgers!”
Getting good at something and then being known as the person that’s good at that something.
“Mad Dog over there can catch salmon with his bare hands.”
All joking aside, a gimmick could help you get noticed, but don’t solely rely upon it.
Remember: you also need substance!
Let’s Wrap This Up
Getting noticed is essential not only for success, but for survival!
If you don’t get noticed and you don’t get people to pay attention, you’ll end up broke and nobody will remember your name.
…and take care friends,